Parent Coach: Teaching Kids & Parents How Self-Awareness Can Improve Relationships


Honolulu (KHON2) – Parent Coach Karen Gibson shares tips on Teaching Kids & Parents How Self-Awareness Can Improve Relationships.

“The Johari Window is a psychological tool that helps people better understand their own personality and how they relate to others,” explains Parent Coach Karen Gibson. “The 4 quadrants are: Open Space, Blind Spot, Hidden Area and and Unknown Area.”

Open Self: Traits known to you AND Known to others.

Blind Self: Traits unknown to yourself BUT Known to others. 

Hidden Self: Traits known to yourself BUT Unknown to others. 

Unknown Self: Traits unknown to yourself  AND Unknown to others.

To teach the Johari Window, ask your child:

How do they feel others see them? Maybe they feel that others see them as shy.

After asking how a friend sees them, they may discover that they had no idea their friends saw them in a certain way.  There are some traits they may hide from others because they want to keep these traits a secret.  These self-reflection questions provide insight and families might start to understand their sibling personality traits better which will impact the way they communicate with each other.

Gibson adds, “Self-awareness helps children to be reflective and think about their actions and behavior, as well as to step back and consider what others in their environment are experiencing. Self-awareness helps children learn from their mistakes, accept criticism better, and listen to and understand the feelings of others.”

Families can access the Johari Window Assessment online.


The Parent Coach invites everyone to take the assessment and ask their friends and family to choose 5 or 6 adjectives that describes them.  Seeing the overlap and differences will provide insight on how they handle certain situations as well as learn how to avoid personality clashes.


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