Laulima: Single father must care for paralyzed mom, 9-year-old daughter


In the last three years, a man lost his wife and became caregiver to his mom as well as his child.

Three years ago, his 31-year old wife was diagnosed with stage three kidney cancer. One month later, he needed back surgery. Six months later, his wife passed away.

Earlier this year, his mother suffered a severe spinal cord injury and became paralyzed. She receives 12 hours of home care per week, but her son, who is an only child, is her primary caregiver. He prepares meals, cleans the home, and bathes her.

He still works his full-time job at the same company he’s been at for 18 years, but because he has to care for his mom and daughter, he’s had to step down as an assistant manager.

Dad says his dream is to redo the shower to accommodate his mom. Until then, he could use a rolling stool to help him move around as he cares for her. It would take the pressure off his back.

He says day-to-day medical supplies, adult briefs and bed pads for mom are his biggest needs though, and he could use work pants.

For his cheerful little angel, his nine-year old daughter, leggings, a nice dress, pajamas (child size 12/14 or large), a drawing set or arts and crafts kit, would be perfect.

When Keiki O Ka Aina approached this family about our Laulima Giving Program, Dad was overwhelmed with gratitude. He never asks for anything and doesn’t want to be a burden.

To help, click here and use the ohana code LS-290.

You can also drop off donations Saturday, Dec. 3, during our Laulima Day Donation Drive at shopping malls across the state. Any donation, big or small, is appreciated and will make a difference.

If you need assistance this holiday season, or want more information on the Laulima Giving Program, please call 808-393-4981 or email

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